There are 3 main factors that go into someone's ability to manipulate us.
1. Fear
2. Obligation
3. Guilt
Doing our own work prevents people from having the ability to get us easily with their manipulation. When you sense you are being manipulated, ask yourself
What am I afraid of?
What do I feel obligated to do here?
What do I feel guilty about?
This work is uncomfortable and hard to do on our own. This is where getting help for yourself is vital.